This is what I'm hoping for...
This what I'm afraid I'll get...
Ok, so here's the deal. We're now only a few months away from the arrival of our new tiny bundle and I have a BIG predicament. Chase is extremely jealous of other children when either Kyle or I are giving any sort of attention to an unknown child. Normally Chase loves looking at other babies, he's very interested in them and really likes them. We just didn't realize that he only likes them when their own parents are holding them and not HIS parents. When we were in Colorado visiting my family in January, I could only hold my little 6 month old neice Brinley when Chase was napping or playing in a different room. If he happened to catch either Kyle or I holding my sweet little neice, he would cry hysterically and grab at my pants or shirt or anything he could until I would give her back to my sister and hold him. We had another situation like this last week in church. Kyle went to drop Chase off in nursery and there were no nursery leaders in there just other parents who were dropping off their children. Somehow we both got roped into helping out in nursery. Well the nursery coordinator was running back and forth in between the two rooms the whole time with her little maybe 5 month old baby and she left her in our room for a little while. Well, as soon as the little baby girl realized her mom was not around she started crying. I picked her up to console her and Chase immediately FREAKED OUT! That's when I thought to myself, "this is very very not good."
So, Monday I reserved some story books at the library that are meant to warm toddlers up to the idea of having a new baby around. I need more ideas though! I know many of you have already gone through this and some of you haven't, and I really don't care who the help comes from as long as I get it before I end up requiring some mental help! So bring on the tips and tricks!!!
6 comments:
Okay I totally feel you on this. Luke is such a mamas boy and hated when I held babies or when I leave the room. We have been shoving baby down his throat since we got pregnant. We bought him a big brother book which he loves. We play baby with dolls and stuffed animals. I let him diaper and feed them. Also I have been inviting babies over like crazy and he actually has been loving them. Covering them and laying down with them and giving them binkis. He kisses my belly and points and says baby. I show him clothes and shoes and basically instill YAY! BIG brother in everything. Also I plan on buying him a few gifts when she comes, mainly to distract. Good luck but I am scared too.
don't worry! Sevy wouldn't even look at Teik in the hospital and it took two weeks for her to warm up to him (she wouldn't get near him) and now they are best friends! I'm sure Chase will quickly be the overprotective older brother! It's fun, and I think you'll have a lot of fun with them both being boys! Cute! I'm super excited for you guys!
Jess, I wanted to say congrats on another boy. I bet they will be best friends in no time. Also congrats on the new house. It looks beautiful.
Hey Jess, I wouldn't worry too much about it . . . We have not had ANY sibbling "hate" problems when the actual baby was born. But NONE of my girls have liked it when I would hold another person's baby (usuallly when my girls were about 2 or so.) I think that it is different when the sibbling KNOWS this new, other spirit--it is like they recognize each other and that they know they fit in the same family. They LOVE each other deeply, differently than some other kid that is not in their family. Chase is a good kid--you have surrounded him with love. He knows how to love. He will embrace his new little brother. I am not saying that there won't be times when you are nursing and Chase picks that exact moment to NEED a snack or story read---that is natural and will happen a lot---but as far as actual meaness, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Just let him know that being a big bother is SUCH an important role to fill. You will all do great! Just being around that new little spirit will make everyone and everything in your home so tender and loving--Chase will feel that too and be a big part of it. Love you guys and I am so excited that you are having another boy!!! (jealous too :) But mostly excited! Take Care!
Much Love, Chris
i've got one idea.... send me Chase!!! I'm sure he'll be so sick of Ava taking his toys, eating his treats, telling him "no, baby, NO!" etc., etc,...that by the time he gets back home, he'll welcome ANY newcomer!!!
AMMMMMMEN!!!!
I'll be checking back in a week or so to see the advice. AND when the new baby comes - let me know what you did and how you did it. Because we're in the SAME boat.
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